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HAPPY BIRTH MONTH BUFFY!

A bit of (free) advice for the belated birthday girl:

Dear Buffy,

If THIS is your lesbian best friend's idea of a vibrator...then it's probably time to get yourself some more lesbian friends.


For that matter, it's probably time your lesbian friend got herself some more lesbian friends.





And they say I'm off my game...what the hell am I supposed to do with this on patrol, massage the demons to death?

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My friend wickedbish and the folks at the Sunnydale Herald reminded me that Sunday the 19th (more or less) was Buffy Summer's 33rd birthday.
(The really-real Buffy, of course. Accept no substitutes.)

I like to think that where ever in the world Buffy might be, she'd be enjoying herself right now, doing what she does best: dancing, fighting, fucking; treating herself to a spa day with Dawn in Rome; watching the sun rise to greet yet another day she'd never thought she live long enough to see.

Falling a little in love with the light every where she goes in the world. Visiting Paris because her mother had longed to as a young woman, before babies and her husband's career got in the way - and steadfastly avoiding the Eiffel Tower. (There's facing your fears, Buffy decides, and then there's masochism. Buffy isn't a masochist anymore.)

Wondering what tomorrow will bring and marveling that she can conceptualize "tomorrow". Leading an army into battle, or counseling a single girl in the privacy of her office. (She doesn't spend a lot of time in her office, but she likes knowing it's there. And that it has a great view of the Thames, a sturdy lock on the door; and a dent in the wall next to the file cabinet that a certain someone made when the two of them were...hence the lock on the door.)

Still saving, and changing, the world - with a little help from her friends.

She's saved my life this year - a lot: helped me process and deal with immediate traumas and distant ghosts; offered me a safe space to laugh, to grieve, and sometimes a haven from "real world" cares for a little bit. I've found support, encouragement, and connection, even if I've had to bite my tongue or wanted to tear my hair out at times. (Admit it : we've all been there.) She opened the door to this little corner of the universe called "buffyverse fandom" that is comforting, confounding and glorious, much like Buffy herself.
Thank you! It was three times as long originally and I finally said - forget the excess verbiage make it short and sweet. I'm so glad it turned out ok.

Oh, yes - this is so beautiful, real and true!! I've dealt with a lot in these past years. I think I've been kinda crazy - at least at the beginning. That's when Katie turned me on to Buffy, and this show has seen me through so much. As much as that, you, all my LJ friends who understand this show and therefore understand an important part of me have kept me going when life just fell apart for me. And Buffy kept me going too - because she faced so much, and she kept coming back for more - not because she wanted to but because it needed to be done. Thank you, for the chance to realize this.

Oh, and as for the massager, I owned one of those and it does come with a warning not to use on fingers and hair. I have to say it took me an embarrassing amount of time to realize exactly what that warning meant.


Oh hon I swear I will respond to your GORGEOUS remarks right after I stop laughing my butt off and can breath again. (I'm not kidding. Hair? Oh OUCH! And I'm afraid to even think about the fingers.....)

As much as that, you, all my LJ friends who understand this show and therefore understand an important part of me have kept me going when life just fell apart for me.

Oh so much so! I think that's something I have to keep reminding myself - we are all so protective of our favorite characters because they represent us, or in one way or another mean so much to us; so when we (I) criticize (by which I mean "mean-spirited bashing" not "thoughtful, well-balanced & considerate critiques" - of course) there's someone else at the other end who feels very personally about it.

And that's just an odd thing to me because no other fictional story has ever held that power. At the end of the day what it brings us (and we bring to each other) trumps everything else, doesn't it?

Buffy kept me going too - because she faced so much, and she kept coming back for more - not because she wanted to but because it needed to be done.

YES, THANK YOU for this! I can never sum up what I feel about Buffy in a nutshell (single sentence) and you just did it for me. :)




No need, sweetie - your presence is enough! The fact that anyone reads my posts let alone stop by and say hi is a tremendous gift.

*HUGS YOU*
THIS THIS THIS.
You are able to write some amazing tributes, you know? This one is lovely and everything we want for our girl. She also helped me a lot and she still does it. Currently I'm rewatching BtVS because it's my comfort food and watching Buffy struggle with smaller and bigger problems makes me feel in good company. Thanks Buffster and happy birthday!

Edited at 2014-01-30 09:09 pm (UTC)
*BLUSHES* Thank you for your kind words, kiki!

It means a lot that you and other folks like this because I had this post sitting unfinished for over a week - I was going to do links to other people's stuff, then I wanted to post an OAFA fanfic but can't find the draft amoung my worse-for-wear-from-the-fire notebooks *pouts*. What I wrote I actually borrowed somewhat off the top of my head from other "fic" I've written - it was frustrating.

So I'm glad it came across ok. I keep having to remind myself "As in all aspects of Slayerhood, simplest is usually best."

Currently I'm rewatching BtVS because it's my comfort food and watching Buffy struggle with smaller and bigger problems makes me feel in good company.

Where are you in your rewatch? Are you going forward chronologically or skipping around?
Lovely. I hope Buffy had a very good Reason to lock her door on her birthday. ;-)

I was very careful in my choice of quotation for the Herald last weekend. I'm glad you enjoyed the reminder.
I hope Buffy had a very good Reason to lock her door on her birthday.

But of course!

And whoever folks like to imagine her with (I wonder who that could be...hmmm) with is cool by me, ergo the ambiguity. My MO is basically, I want Buffy to be happy, I want for herself what she might want for herself. Ok. Except maybe Xander. And Giles. definitely not Riley, oh no. And really not so much Angel unless Spike's along for the ride too.

Ok, so that does narrow the field a bit....

I was very careful in my choice of quotation for the Herald last weekend.

Eh? I only remember the note that the 19th was her birthday, which wickedbish had reminded me of weeks ago. Mind like a sieve over here. Was there a "controversy"?


Edited at 2014-01-31 05:47 pm (UTC)
That's lovely. Buffy has been so important to so many people.
Thank you for the kind words, hon! And yes indeed, she has; and the fact that she still matters to so many people, that she's still drawing in new fans (like myself) is pretty amazing.

I like to think that Buffy would be astonished by this but also pleased and not just a little flattered.
33? Wow.

That's what the su_herald notice said (I never would have figured that out on my own - me and math are not mixy things.)

Thank you for stopping by!
This is a fantastic tribute!

I wish all these things for Buffy too.

Happy Birthday to the best damn Slayer in the 'verse.
What a beautiful vision of who she is today. I'm going to go with that version because it makes me feel good.

I've had times watching an episode and thinking if Buffy can get through this with such grace and courage, I can get through my challenges too. Honestly, it's helped my change my attitude on several occasions. So glad she could help you too. xxx
I'm going to go with that version because it makes me feel good.

And also because my version is the correct one, of course. *lol*

if Buffy can get through this with such grace and courage

and those are two of my favorite words when I think about Buffy. (I may need to add them to an icon *ponders*)

Honestly, it's helped my change my attitude on several occasions.

The same here - and it seems really kind of strange (fictional character and all that) but there have been times when I've been depressed or upset and then thought "Buffy had to dig her way out of her own grave - PERSPECTIVE." And it really does help. That's what heros do for us, I think - or at least the "modern" understanding of a hero; not to be perfect and make us feel inferior but remind us of what we are capable of however flawed we are.

And thank you very much for the kind words!
I think she helps me in some way every day.

I would love for this to be her life now -- she deserves it, and more.

Thanks for a wonderful birthday tribute.
I'm really amazed and delighted at how many other people love Buffy too - it makes me realize I'm not "alone" - in loving her OR in why she helps me and what we all share. which is pretty special.

Yes, I tend to have a very optimistc view of her life now - because, as you say, she deserves it. And I think she's capable of handling her life after Sunnydale with real maturity and grace.
Ah thank you hon! *blushes*

All the Shakespeareos was one of my favorite things this year - superbly written - it actually helped me rediscover some of my fondness for Spike (and "Spuffy"). So. I'm really pleased you liked this.
I'm pretty goddamn emotional lately anyway, but this seriously almost made me cry like a bitch.