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Feeling left out o' the loop....

 Am I the ONLY person in this corner of LJ fandom who DIDN'T watch the Doctor Who 50th Anniversary special?  (Apparently my "inner Willow I hate to
be left out Rosenberg" has come out to pla pout.  Which gives me pause....)

Aaaaaaannnnnnddddd in other non-whiny new o' my life, my sweetie ordered a new computer today. Last we she bought me new twin bed to replace the one that got crispy-fried in August. First pillow-top mattress I've had! Plus new sheet and down comforter. I felt a wee bit self-conscious about it as "her bed" because like most things in our home, she purchased it. (She has a job, I'm unemployed.). But she called it mine.

Sometimes I am reminded all over again why I love her and what's kept us together for nigh on 17 years. I suspect our relationship mightn't look functional to any one else, and it sure as hell doesn't fit any neat ideals in the self-help books. But it works in it's own strange way - we get by.  At the end of the day all we have is everything we are.

(And at the end of the day, maybe that's why I love Buffy&Spike in all their screwed-up, messy, sometimes tender, sometimes terrible glory? It's something I can recognize, feel, understand. The rest of the world be damned.)
I didn't see it as I was at Mum & Dad's (being a weekend) ... but am just downloading it now!
I saw it, and enjoyed it fine, but I don't have anything to say about it afterwards.

It was a fun program I watched. :)
I've never watched Doctor Who.

As for your relationship - who gives a darn whether it fits into some preconceived notion of how two people are supposed to live? If it works for you both, that's all that matters, because it's about you, not a bunch of kibitzers.


Gabrielle
Sorry for the late reply!
If it works for you both, that's all that matters, because it's about you, not a bunch of kibitzers.

I had to look up the word "kibitzers" - vocabulary enrichment FTW!

It's funny because I think that my writing this was me trying to work out whether or not the relationship is working for us or not - trying to persuade myself? heh We've since had one of those dreaded "relationship talks" that ended with "we'll try harder" - stuff got aired, at least. that's something.

Happy new year, hon!
Count me in as one of those who didn't watch the Dr. Who special.

But it works in it's own strange way - we get by. I think that description is true for 90% of couples with a relationship that works. I never trust those relationships where the couple says "we are perfect together". To me that's total and complete crap. They can't be "perfect together" all the time. I always say (and I don't mean this in a dirty way) a couple works if all of their puzzle pieces fit. Like for instance, if you are always late and your partner is always early, you work it out so as a couple you are on time.
I never trust those relationships where the couple says "we are perfect together". To me that's total and complete crap. They can't be "perfect together" all the time.

Oh exactly - I tend to suspect those folks are telling me what they want me to believe. to be fair, those may also be couples who are still in the early "honeymoon" phase of the relationship. EVERYBODY sees themselves and their partners through rose-tinted glasses then.

Or maybe there are couples who are that drama free. I may have seen one of those once. I think I also saw a unicorn once, too. (He lives in upstate New York, btw. Anti-social, prefers virgins, terrible hygiene.)
Aw, any time you want to drink the Doctor Who Kool-Aid, we will be more than willing to supply you. :D
Heh, thanks! elisi is seducing me into New Who fandom ( or specifically River Song fandom) so I'll probably watch on Netflix when we get the 'puter back.
I haven't gotten a chance to watch the special yet, but I want to watch it.

*hugs*
I'm avoiding spoilers like the plague so I can enjoy the 50th in 3D tomorrow. It's been difficult, especially when green_maia said Ten and Eleven have a Ian Mckellan/Patrick Stewart-like chemistry (see: the X-Men movies for reference).

And I kind of love warm fuzzy stories about you and your sweetie. And pillow top mattresses are warm and fuzzy.
And I kind of love warm fuzzy stories about you and your sweetie. And pillow top mattresses are warm and fuzzy.

Huh. And thanks! I worried this sort of thing didn't fit this LJ but if there's a readership for it (oh, the pressure *flopsweat*)

BTW this pillow top is actually extra-firm! i don't remember it being such in the store but I can't find the receipt to confirm we got the right one. So I've got a foam pad and an old comforter atop it; I'm thinking of a gel pad for it. Having a down comforter (even an inexpensive one) and a fleece blanket plus new sheets along with is sweet.
I haven't seen DW either and the more I read about it, the less I want to. I loved this show in its early seasons, but now all it does is make me want to spit poison. :(
Your relationship sounds more perfect that any boring self-help book stereotype. As long as you're happy, it must mean that it works. :))
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<i.I loved this show in its early seasons, but now all it does is make me want to spit poison. :( </i>

Oh dear. May I ask why? (I have no feelings about the new who because I haven't seen any of it.)

<i>As long as you're happy, it must mean that it works</i>

I was talking about this same point with <lj user=clockwork_hart1> (Lucy) downthread so I'll link to that:
http://red-satin-doll.livejournal.com/27614.html?thread=660190#t660190
Because I was surprised that more than one person said what you did, that as long as I was "happy", and I didn't think I'd meant to convey "happiness". Many times I'm NOT happy, and that's one of the biggest issues for me that I wrestle with on a day-to-day basis.

I think Lucy hit the nail on the head: "functional and happy aren't the same, but as long as it feels... worth something, then something has to be right." Maybe that's what I was getting at? there are things in this relationship that work, and things that don't - happiness seems to be quite beside the point.

BTW - your Touched Icon is LOVE. I want to cuddle up inside of it.
I haven't seen the Doctor Who special. I like the show, but have neither the time nor energy to keep up with it.
I did see the Anniversary, but it's been a part of my life for nine whole years now, which, considering my age, is a long time. Besides, it's been the only news over here for the last three months. It was inescapable.

But yay for having a real bed! And no relationship fits into the little niches they love to stick people in. Who the hell cares if it doesn't "look functional"? If it works for you, it works. Which makes me both happy for you and lonely. Sigh. That's what friends are for, right?
I had never heard of Dr Who until my friends introduced me to it (along with Blake's 7 and Red Dwarf) in college. We were watching when #7 and Ace were on. They were probably the first fictional surrogate father-daughter pairing I fell in love with long before Buffy and Giles.

So Dr Who isn't an institution here in the US like it is in the UK.

Regarding relationships - I wish I had enjoyed my single years more. I also thought that being in love would lead to happiness and it's not so simple. When I partnered up I made all the mistakes I swore I wouldn't - neglected friends because I was spending all my time with my new honey. Nearly everyone does it but it's fatal to isolate yourself.

I guess what I mean is don't idealize the ideal of romantic relationships. Sometimes the loneliest place in the world for me is when I'm with my partner. I'm intrigued by the fact that some folks in this thread mention the idea of me being happy because I didn't realize I'd implied that; "functional" is not the same as "happy".

Tis something to ponder further....