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My Corner of Buffyverse Fandom and Welcome To It


Click on all images below to view full-size (They don't look at all right downsized. 'tis most distressing.) All artwork by me unless otherwise noted.



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Gift from my amazing friend and a jewel of this fandom spikesredqueen for my birthday (Feb 2015, not snaggable)




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"Winged Buffy" banner, a gift from the fantastically talented and generous comlodge, (June 2013, not snaggable)
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* My LJ is Hugs Central. (Mostly.) Appropriate and consensual ones, of course. Safety and fun are at a premium here, so play nice with each other. Leave the weapons at the door, wipe your feet on the mat, and help yourself to some tea and homemade cookies.

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...by any other name. (June 2014)

* Buffy is my Big Damn Hero and my #1 HBIC - because she's flawed and human and real. Because she loves deeply; she falls down but still fights, she grieves and endures, again and again. Because she breaks the rules and finds another way; because of her intelligence, intuition and wit. Because in watching her I identify with my own issues and strengths, and have a renewed appreciation for my mom as well.

* Because in talking about her with other fans, in telling my story through her, in voicing my truth, I discover that I'm not alone in my challenges, faults, and grief; that I don't have to be imprisoned by secrets and shame; and in sharing this, I can bring comfort to others. And because at the end of the day, Buffy gives me hope; and sometimes that's enough to make getting out of bed in the morning worthwhile. And because she is just so freakin' adorable, y'all.
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Keep Her Safe (alt 1) (March 2015)
* I love intelligent discussion of , and appreciation for , the ladies of the verse and their complex interrelationships  at the core of the 'verse: mothers, sisters, mentors, students, friends, lovers, enemies, allies. The Buffyverse without it's women would be a cold, barren place:  ("that bright optimism that becomes a great, raw wound-red in The Body" - the_royal_anna ). They bear witness to one another, the hurt one another when they don't mean to, they love even when it's difficult and painful to do so.


* And yes, this also includes Kennedy. No vitriol. No joke.  (Tara would not approve of the hate. A lot of the complaints I've seen about her are suspicously close to those lobbed at Buffy, btw.) Entitled? Yes. Arrogant? Uh-huh - and also loyal, courageous, stubborn and gentle. She's a "queer woman of color..that is allowed to be the hero."

* The Buffy & Tara friendship/connection is one of the most underappreciated aspects of the 'verse IMO. This WILL be rectified. I don't ship Buffy/Tara, but if that's what it takes to get fandom talking about them? A fangirl's gotta do what a fangirl's gotta do. (ETA 2014: I have seen the light of the true religion: Buffy/Tara shipping. I ship those girls so freakin' hard. Now say amen, somebody.)
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My OTF/P (August 2014)
*In fact, let's just say "No bashing female characters, period." There's plenty of other places to do that, if that's your thing. The show's failures in terms of the depictions of women, of female sexuality, the lack of mature female characters, the massive fail in terms of race and class? Always up for intelligent, civil discussion and examination.
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* OTOH, I do reserve the right to bitch about call out their shit criticize objectively analyze and take issue with certain whiny, self-absorbed males on the series and their collective patronizing jackassery. Don't get me wrong, I can understand them, sympathize with them, and so forth. Xander trying to be a "better man" than his father? Even when he gets it wrong? I heartily approve. (I'll still call him out on his shit, though.) It's simple math: Grow up, get real or go home. Also I welcome any and every opportunity to make fun of Angel.  Particularly when penguins are involved.  As well they should be.
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I Walk Alone, another beautiful gift from comlodge based on her FFL picspam series for Round 18 of seasonal_spuffy.

* I 'ship Buffy&Spike S7 . Love in action is the hardest, most painful and most worthwhile work we can ever do - and IMO it trumps "true love" romantic fantasies every time. (That said, I fully support the right to ship Buffy with anyone you damn well please.) But he is not my central focus here. Nor are any of the men of the 'verse, except in terms of how they serve Buffy's story.  It turns out the protagonist of the "Buffyverse" is some gal named Buffy.  Weird, huh?
Oh my goodness, I just fell into a meta-link spiral from days past. Fun! I love stumbling across new things, too, as well as the classics which are always worth another read. (And it's sometimes nice to re-read your own stuff from the distance provided by a few years gone by and think 'hey that was kinda insightful and well-said'.)

Also, not sure if you're familiar with aerintine/Jamie (she was leaving Buffy fandom around the time you were joining it), but she wrote an absolutely wonderful Buffy & Tara fic, Please Don't Forgive Me, which I just know you'd adore.

WAIT. I just scrolled down to the comments and I see YOU commenting on that fic. OF COURSE. That short little fic left such an impression on me that when I saw you talking about Buffy & Tara, I immediately thought of it.

(Wow, this post has now led to me looking into old meta posts and comments on my friends journals from, like, 2010.)

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Thanks so much hon for stopping by! Have you read my Buffy & Tara meta yet from the other day? I'm really very pleased with the response it's gotten. fray_adjacent even created some new female centric icons like the "Family" one I'm using right now. there are fans interested in the ladies, it's just so easy to fall into the same old riffs (ie Buffy & Spike, etc) Even I'm guilty of it.

I just scrolled down to the comments and I see YOU commenting on that fic. OF COURSE.

The funny thing is I'd forgotten that until just now - it was almost a year ago that I commented. (And I was the only person to comment - which proves my POINT! This cannot stand.) But I had forgotten about it, isn't that awful? I should do a Buffy & Tara rec list. It's hard ruuger asked for some recs on the subject a few months back and I didn't have much to offer. On AO3 when i put in Buffy/Tara I got 25 fics the other day. Put them in as individual characters and you get all the thousands of fics that happen to have both of them listed but don't necessary have them interacting with each other. I love the balance of the two of them.

And I'm puzzled - "Tara and Spike" or "Tara/Spike" shows up a lot more in fandom. Which sort of confirms for me the fact that a lot of people don't like Buffy, but also I think that people see Tara as being more traditionally feminine, "nicer" and therefore a more appropriate partner for Spike? But "niceness" has a cost. If any one of the ladies in the verse - as in real life - swallow their anger, surpress it, they're "closed off", they're not feminine enough, If they express their anger they're told they don't have a right to be angry, that they're not feminine enough.

I actually have a first (very rough) draft of a B/T fic, which I promised laynoyee first glance at, as she inspired it in our conversations. If you haven't visited her LJ or tumblr, please do; she's wonderful to talk and brainstorm with re: Buffy, Dawn, Tara etc.

I didn't plan to link to your meta so often here but it just sort of happened? (I had really meant to do a little birthday gift for you weeks ago and - didn't. My bad. The image of Buffy & Tara from OAFA I used the other day was originally supposed to be for you. *gulp*) Your meta on Buffy and depression has been on my mind a LOT lately, and I've reread it several times because it really resonates with me very strongly, but also I find myself coming up against the same sorts of things that inspired you to write it in the first place. I always wonder, do I have the same sort of courage Emmie had? Am I ready to fight for Buffy, and in doing so fight for all of us who love and identify with her? I hope so, but I doubt myself a lot.

Coincidentally, I finally read your essay on Berthe Morisot; I love (feminist) art history but I hadn't taken the time before, I think because I was seeing that painting as rather ordinary "image of a woman at her toilette" that the male artists of the day so loved to do. I hadn't ever taken the time to deconstruct it as you have. I'll have to post my thoughts over there when I've got a better hold of them in my head.

(Wow, this post has now led to me looking into old meta posts and comments on my friends journals from, like, 2010.)

I'm always commenting on old posts and old fanfics. I think of the internet as the biggest library in the world.
See, stuff like this is why you're awesome. I just hope to have a chance to dig into all the links I haven't already read (or written - thanks!)

I loved your Tara post, btw. I should probably add something more worthwhile than that, but I'm all brained out at the moment.

And the Dawn<->Riley (I wrote "Dawn/Riley" at first, which... yeeesh) parallels should definitely be explored. In a season about identity, Riley flunks out - goes from Reliable Cowboy Guy (always putting on an act) to nothing - and Dawn goes from nothing to Real.
See, stuff like this is why you're awesome

Aww, hon, I am verklempt! *blushes* Just - that means a lot, seriously, coming from one of my fandom role models. (It's absolutely true.) I'm curious now as to how many of these links you haven't read - I suspect you're familiar with most if not all.

I loved your Tara post, btw. I should probably add something more worthwhile than that, but I'm all brained out at the moment.

THANK YOU. I've got notes for an entire meta series about her but just doing that very first one took me weeks and about 5 drafts. I had no idea if there was any interest, how "political" should I get blah blah. The tone was really hard. And I don't really do "drafts" per se, like I do with fic, so I can't hand it off to a beta and say "help".

Congrats on the SunnyD nomination! I rec'd "not in the brochure" today, even if I am biased:
http://red-satin-doll.livejournal.com/18670.html I kind of feel like Tracy Ullman when she said she was so proud that the Simpsons spun off her show, so she felt like a grandmother. And then a few years later she sued Matt Groenig...ok, not the best comparison there.

In a season about identity, Riley flunks out - goes from Reliable Cowboy Guy (always putting on an act) to nothing - and Dawn goes from nothing to Real.

Oh hell to the yes! Exactly this. And the parallels really didn't occur to me admittedly until I was looking at screencaps for ITW/BT the other day and noticed the way they both wound themselves in an identical place on their arms .If you're interested in Dawn & Riley lanoyee and I have a pretty interesting conversation about the parallels that will probably be the basis of another meta post. She's really thought about Dawn a lot more than I have, so some of her ideas are brilliant IMO. http://red-satin-doll.livejournal.com/17490.html (We're also talking about Robin Wood and how problematic LMPTM is; which is something else I've been dying to talk about.)

I'm still really surprised by how much hate Dawn gets vs how much fandom is willing to "overlook" Riley's transgressions, I guess because he's a guy and we shouldn't expect any better? (Or is it the larger dislike of "bitchy women" - Buffy, Dawn, Kennedy, etc?) Dawn's problems are so much bigger than his, that the more I think about him in S5 the more pathetic he becomes to me. And usually I'm all about compassion and reconsidering characters and seeing the layers, but he's the one who just absolutely - dwindles.
- I adore how you formatted this - it's an introduction and a links list in one!
- I'll be going through the links and watching Arrested Development tonight (that's an average Friday night for me - sigh), so expect comments and the occasional STEVE HOLT! shout out.
- I officially name comlodge Queen of Winged!Buffy Art. You can be her loyal handmaiden.
- Re: your last bullet point, I think you'll love this vid. I immediately thought of it when I read your B/F = B/S - sex equation, though my favorite version of "Creep" will always be my sister's. I kind of made a promise to rec her whenever possible.
- I have a meta coming I think you'll love. I actually thought of you while writing it. So if I don't post it this week, bug me about it.
THANK YOU! MORE LINKS! SHINY! I'm really glad this works for you because it was really totally random in a way, I just sat and wrote at one go without any idea what I was doing. (Truth)

I've seen Brad's version a while back! We exchanged some very nice messages, he was very sweet. I haven't seen the other's though, so thank you, I always LOVE well-done video recs.

Your links are extremely timely b/c I was thinking about the Faith & Spike connection this morning a bit more; trying to decide if I should do a separate meta on that or make it a two-parter when I get to Who Are You in the Buffy & Tara series. (Which is really Tara plus Buffy plus sisterhood and motherhood metaphors etc.) What say you?

Also I'm trying to decide if I want to get my Dawn & Riley musings (with lanoyee ) out of the way first. http://red-satin-doll.livejournal.com/17490.html?thread=368466#t368466
I may do just to get it out of the way and be done with it.

I officially name comlodge Queen of Winged!Buffy Art. You can be her loyal handmaiden.

Oh yes she's got a willing slave - although I like "handmaiden" better. :) Did you see her banner for "The One with Wings" on my earlier post?

I have a meta coming I think you'll love. I actually thought of you while writing it. So if I don't post it this week, bug me about it.

*squeals* Count on it, sister. I WILL be waiting.

BTW - I hope I didn't come across as harsh in my reply to you on the buffy & tara meta? I apologize if I did.


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Thanks for reccing me! It's an honor to be included alongside so many great posts.

Btw, sorry about not commenting on your Buffy-Tara meta. I've been pretty worn down with schoolwork lately. Although I did read and agree with what you said, unfortunately I feel like I don't have anything substantial to add? I'm so out of touch with fandom. Hopefully I can get back into the swing of it soon.
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Thanks for coming by! I'm honored when someone takes the time to even read one of my posts, let alone comment; theres a million other things you could be doing. So please don't feel obligated - there are so many good posts from other people I only wish I could get to. (I have seen your name in the My Guests stats, btw, so I know you've been by. Someone in fandom I admire thinks my shit is worth reading? Best compliment ever. Lurkers rock.)

That meta is really sort of a warm-up act anyway; I think the convo threads of some of my recent posts are more interesting than the posts but isn't that how it's supposed to be? That's what got me into fandom.

I do hope you can get back into it but only when life allows and you really enjoy it? I've missed your fierce and bold intelligence re: the buffyverse. When you say schoolwork you mean your own or are you a teacher (look whose woefully out of touch.)
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Hi,

just wanted to let you know that it could possibly be January before i get back online. Hope things are going well for you as the holidays approach.

Still working on stories, and have three cats disturbing me at every opportunity; also giving me accusing glances every time I move and dare to disturb them :-)

Goddess watch over you in the coming year,
'tis ok to be Takei,

Ray Harley (26 Park Drive, Blairgowrie, Perthshire, Scotland PH10 6PH
from Ray (Kerkevik) in Scotland
(Anonymous)
Hi,

just wanted to let you know that it could possibly be January before i get back online. Hope things are going well for you as the holidays approach.

Still working on stories, and have three cats disturbing me at every opportunity; also giving me accusing glances every time I move and dare to disturb them :-)

Goddess watch over you in the coming year,
'tis ok to be Takei,

Ray Harley (26 Park Drive, Blairgowrie, Perthshire, Scotland PH10 6PH
Re: from Ray (Kerkevik) in Scotland
Thank you for the update, Ray, I hope all is well with you too? Things are relatively stable for my sweetie and I right at the moment - in a new apartment (after the fire in August), my back/leg pain is quite a bit better last year's injury, and so forth. Rather quiet right now, which is fine.

I'm very glad to hear you are writing - you're a role model for "showing up at the page". I need to develop a similar ethic. And those cats - ah yes, they know perfectly well they own you, don't they?

Do take care and be blessed,

Janice
So....I just friended you....but I have to warn you....I dislike Buffy. I don't bash/diss her or anything, and I ship Buffy/Spike, but I'm not a huge fan, so my fic and my icons don't feature her very often. :/ Hopefully that's acceptable, friend-wise. :)
I am a Dawn fan, but I often leave Buffy killed-off at the end of Season Five, because I feel like Dawn would have thrived, eventually, without her in a way she never does with her. Also, just fyi, I don't really explore the Buffy/Tara friendship.
I do appreciate the Buffy/Dawn sisterhood - I think Buffy is an amazing sister. But, I do think she has some major flaws when it comes to friendship.
As for Kennedy, I'm not a fan, but again...I don't bash/hate/diss or anything. I'm not a fan of hate, just in general.
I'm also a huge Willow/Angel shipper/fan because I think my version of her makes him a better person. I don't dislike Xander, because I identify with him in some ways. I love Giles, though. And I'm a big fan of Spike until that scene in Season Six (bathroom with Buffy). However, I do play around with the women (fan-fiction and icons) way more often cuz well, shallow of me, but they're so pretty! :D :)
And I adore Faith, and think the show could have done so much more with her character....so I tend to write good!faith....
*shrugs*
So...if any of that bugs you, feel free to not friend-back, but....if it's all good....hi!
And my name's Leander. :)

-Leander

Well I friended you back before you wrote all this so we're stuck with each other! *lol* Welcome to my little world, and thank you for actually reading this post. I need to update it something awful.

And it's all good - I don't ask that people love Buffy or even like her; I just ask, no dissing here in my little playground. If folks want to do that in their own sandbox, that's their business. (Conversely, when I come across discussion about how wonderful Character A was and what a bitch Buffy/Dawn/etc was, I don't stick my nose in. That's their space and I'm not going to change anybody's mind anyway.)

A lot of my friends here are not really Buffy fans per se, but we're still friends. Actually I have a lot of Willow fans on my flist, and there are things about Willow that bug the hell out of me, but I'm not going to bash her. Respect is the key.

I am a Dawn fan,

As well you should be! Dawn does NOT get the love she deserves and that is just so wrong IMO. *hugs* I'm assuming you and Kelsey are friends then?

I am a Dawn fan, but I often leave Buffy killed-off at the end of Season Five.....I do appreciate the Buffy/Dawn sisterhood - I think Buffy is an amazing sister.

It sounds as though your feelings towards Buffy are - complicated. *strokes chin*

I do think she has some major flaws when it comes to friendship.

What character on this show doesn't? And she has some incredible gifts. I tend to view the show through the lens of dysfunctional family dynamics because they are a symbolic family (the text makes that incredibly clear) but the same Xander who can be Supporto-Guy and is braver than he's given credit for. (and I love me some Supporto-Guy) lies, is incredibly possessive esp of women he's "in love" with, slut shames Cordy, Buffy, Anya, etc. One and the same guy. He has an awful home and it's not unlike what I grew up in. And I have brothers. Don't always like him but I understand and can love him in a way.

And so on with Willow and each character.

And I get it, because I see where each of these kids comes from - they don't have wonderful, happy hallmark card home lives.

And I adore Faith, and think the show could have done so much more with her character....so I tend to write good!faith....

TOTAL agreement there. I would have been perfectly happy with more Faith and (frankly) less Spike. (I mean I love those kids in S7 but I don't actually ship them before that. I was fine with friendship, I didn't want or need them to be lovers quite honestly.) But then again, I want to pitch Andrew out the window after S6 to make space for Faith and Dawn and people I actually cared about. (aka the women)

I've actually written post-series Fuffy but not really Spuffy, but I'm really not about "shipping" as a primary lens to view the show anyway. I don't care who Buffy "ends up with" (it's a contest? WTF?) *shrugs*

Anyhoo welcome and I hope you find stuff to enjoy here! I pimp and link to other people's stuff a lot so it's not just all about Buffy.
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You made remember how much someone can do with such a small little square. Glorious!

ETA: And the bigger images...forget about it.......I fainted with the one of the 3 of them :D

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Hey LJ might get closed down. I just thought to let u know that I'm moving while keeping my journal open.

If LJ is going away or going down, here's the link to my dreamwidth blog with a new name, called scarletsoldier

Here's the link: http://scarletsoldier.dreamwidth.org/

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