* If that's not your pleasure OTOH, my kink for Warrior-Mama FIERCE protective bitches (be still my heart) is also at the ready.
* I can't get LJ to format a post properly. Oh well - more points to you for endurance, Gentle Reader.
* My LJ is Hugs Central. (Mostly.) Appropriate and consensual ones, of course. Safety and fun are at a premium here, so play nice with each other. Leave the weapons at the door, wipe your feet on the mat, and help yourself to some tea and homemade cookies.
* Buffy is my Big Damn Hero - because she's flawed and human and real. Because she loves and fights, she grieve and endures, again and again. Because in watching her I identify with my own issues and strengths, and have a renewed appreciation for my mom as well. Because in talking about her with other fans, in telling my story through her, in voicing my truth, I discover that I'm not alone in my challenges, faults, and grief; that I don't have to be imprisoned by secrets and shame; and in sharing this, I can bring comfort to others. And because at the end of the day, Buffy gives me hope; and sometimes that's enough to make getting out of bed in the morning worthwhile. And because she is just so freakin' adorable, y'all.
* FYI: My No Dissing Buffy Rule also applies to Sarah Michelle Gellar. Joss wasn't the only "auteur"; he wrote Buffy but Sarah embodied her completely. I wasn't part of the fandom back in the day, didn't get embroiled in the hatefest, not interested now. Just sayin'. Break the rules and I will take away the tea and cookies. Do not make me do this.
* I love intelligent discussion of , and appreciation for , the ladies of the verse and their complex interrelationships at the core of the 'verse: mothers, sisters, mentors, students, friends, lovers, enemies, allies. The Buffyverse without it's women would be a cold, barren place: ("that bright optimism that becomes a great, raw wound-red in The Body" - the_royal_anna ). They bear witness to one another, the hurt one another when they don't mean to, they love even when it's difficult and painful to do so.
* Yes, this includes Dawn. Who is courageous without an ounce of Slayer strength, sasses the Hellgod who is trying to kill her, and comes out on the other side of some major identity and abandonment issues a hell of a lot better than Riley does. Buffy and Dawn's prickly, contentious, yet ultimately loyal and loving relationbnship? That's my sister and I when we were kids, right there.
* And yes, this also includes Kennedy. No vitriol. No joke. (Tara would not approve of the hate.) Entitled? Yes. Arrogant? Uh-huh - and also loyal, courageous, stubborn and gentle. Dig this: Early seasons btvs Cordy + Buffy + Faith = Kennedy. (Buffy brought the handcuffs. Faith brought the Jack D. Spike and Xander wanted to watch and Queen C told them where to go. The sex was tremendous. Then they tried a foursome with Illyria and Glory was the result. Oops.)
* The Buffy & Tara friendship/connection is one of the most underappreciated aspects of the 'verse IMO. This WILL be rectified. I don't ship Buffy/Tara, but if that's what it takes to get fandom talking about them? A fangirl's gotta do what a fangirl's gotta do.
opportunity to make fun of Angel. Particularly when penguins are involved. As well they should be.
* I 'ship Buffy&Spike S7 so hard it hurts, in all the right ways. I do. Love in action is the hardest, most painful and most worthwhile work we can ever do - and it PWNS "true love" romantic bullshit every time. (What, me? Biased?) But he is not my central focus here. Nor are any of the men of the 'verse, except in terms of how they serve Buffy's story. It turns out the protagonist of the "Buffyverse" is some gal named Buffy. Weird, huh?
* Parting words: The Buffy& Faith dynamic and the Buffy&Spike dynamic are the SAME DAMN THING. Except without sex for B/F. This is TRUTH. (And to think we could have been spared the snoozefest of S3 Bangel? Fuck the networks and American conservative cultural mores.)